Monday Morning Motivation | Keeping Score

Posted by Bill Esteb on Jul 16th 2022

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As part of an elimination diet consider eliminating the tendency of keeping score.

Keeping score is a defense mechanism we employ to insure we aren't taken advantage of. It's a strategy used to maintain fairness and equality. It's a form of selfishness that can become an obstacle to something that others find attractive and a surefire practice builder: generosity.

Keeping score is a way to avoid the obligation of being in someone else's debt. ("Oh, you shouldn't have!")

Keeping score reduces the likelihood of performing random acts of kindness. ("Only if I get the credit.")

Keeping score keeps our acts of charity or pro bono work to a minimum. ("My fee is my fee.")

Keeping score is a form of comparison, a well-known recipe for feelings of less than. ("He's seeing more patients than I am.")

Those who wish to lead must serve. Those who are first will be last.

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Bill Esteb has been a chiropractic patient and advocate since 1981. He is the creative director of Patient Media and the co-founder of Perfect Patients. He’s been a regular speaker at chiropractic gatherings since 1985. His 12 books explore the doctor/patient relationship from a patient's point of view. His chiropractic blog, in-office consultations, patient focus groups and consulting calls have helped hundreds of chiropractors around the world. Since 1999 Monday Morning Motivation has been emailed to over 10,000 subscribers each week.