As part of an elimination diet consider eliminating the need to be right.

We've all had encounters with know-it-alls who insist that their idea, belief or opinion is the correct one. They're easy to spot because they upset harmony wherever they go. Seems talk radio was practically invented for this purpose.

At first glance this need to be right appears to be part of a strategy to convince or win over another. Usually that's merely a hoped-for side effect. Often there are other issues in play.

Low self-esteem – I need your agreement to assuage my insecurity.

A show superiority – Whoever has the most right answers is the winner.

Fragility – The louder the voice, the flimsier the proof.

Expensive – Making others wrong rarely produce respect or appreciation.

Thankless – Few ever observe later, "I've been thinking about what you said and you're right."

Would you rather be right or happy? Choose carefully.

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Bill Esteb has been a chiropractic patient and advocate since 1981. He is the creative director of Patient Media and the co-founder of Perfect Patients. He’s been a regular speaker at chiropractic gatherings since 1985. His 12 books explore the doctor/patient relationship from a patient's point of view. His chiropractic blog, in-office consultations, patient focus groups and consulting calls have helped hundreds of chiropractors around the world. Since 1999 Monday Morning Motivation has been emailed to over 10,000 subscribers each week.